A bangin’ body, a girl who can eat, and a superdown chick who can hang with the guys might be several responses you receive when asking men to describe their ideal girlfriends. But when you tweak the subject of the conversation to ask what they look for in a potential wife, things go beyond surface level. Turns out, when it’s time to talk about the person you want to spend your life with instead of who you want to spend tonight with, sh*t gets a little more real, and in a good way.
Values shift from cool and slightly superficial to something with more depth and substance. I looked to some of my male friends to find out what they consider to be “wifey material,” and while all their responses differed, one thing was clear: she’s got to be more than a pretty face. In fact, none of their answers even mentioned physical appearance. Here’s what men single, taken, and soon-to-be-married had to say.
“Motivated and independent; pushes me to be better. When I’m with her, I want to be the best me and make her happy along the way.” – Andrew J., 28
“What makes a girl wifey material is sharing similar interests, able to conversate on deep topics, knowing I can go to her with anything, and enjoying every moment with her knowing I can do this for the rest of my life.” – Mason, 25
“Trustworthy – you never want the jealousy to linger and get stronger; always make sure you have developed trust between each other.” – Nolan, 28
“Family-oriented – no two people come from the same family . . . You must learn to work with both sides of the family and figure out what works for your own.”
“I consider a girl to be wifey material if she would make a good mommy. The most important thing wifey and I will do is raise a family, so to upgrade from girlfriend to wifey, she’s got to make a great mommy.” – Jose, 23
“Someone you want to go to a concert with, travel with, do the dishes with, take naps with, raise a family with, and tackle life with when things get tough. And sex. Great sex.” – Andrew C., 31.
So there ya have it. I’ve been proposed to a few times, and so I’m guessing that I’m wife material. I don’t know if that’s a compliment though. Being married is fucking awesome when you have a great spouse. But I’ve been on both sides, the good wife, and the bad wife. I’ve also been with shitty men so I get that some folks just don’t match well. But to me, the number one thing that must be present for a relationship to be considered good is…
What makes a girl wifey material is sharing similar interests, able to conversate on deep topics, knowing I can go to her with anything, and enjoying every moment with her knowing I can do this for the rest of my life.” – Mason, 25
Now that’s the shit. You can have a marriage of convenience where you two are together but you both have ulterior motives that have absolutely nothing to do with love, and that’d be the glue that holds you too dysfunctional idiots together.
Or you can have what Mason is looking for. It honestly does not matter how much money you make, it does not matter how successful you are, it does not matter how good you are in bed, what truly matters is your ability to be agreeable, likeable, sociable, and honest.
We have to actually LIKE EACH OTHER. LOL, some of y’all are married to your enemy and you don’t even know it. He literally fucking hates you. He hates all women. He’s jealous of you and your success. He berates you and you’re embarrassed by him. Basically he’s like a toddler. You can’t take him anywhere because you don’t know how he’ll act.
And there are wives who hate their husbands. They are only with him because he’s got all the money, but she finds him repulsive. They aren’t even friends. He’s a piece of shit and she knows it.
I can’t imagine spending my life with someone who didn’t like me. Someone who had interests that were too different from mine. And being with a person who doesn’t talk to you about deep shit? Man I might as well be single.
I think Mason nailed it.
But a lot of the chicks today are working on their weave game, their twerk game and their social media makeup contour game. Good luck with that. 😊your eyebrows are really on fleek!