With the start of the 2016-2017 school year for kids, this is a very important topic. When we were children a lot of us were Bullied too, and a lot of us were the bullies. Things have not changed much. Teachers at that time were very docile when it came to bullies and they expected you to basically turn the other cheek and just grin and bear it. But what type of message does that send to your children when you tell them to turn the other cheek? I understand that it is Christian biblically based, but it’s not practical. The reason why it is not practical because as an adult if you assault someone you will be arrested. So why don’t we take the same type of measures for children? Instead of saying kids will be kids, why don’t we start taking some actual action and making them be accountable for their behavior. One of the worst feelings in the world is to be a child with academic success but he is afraid that he is going to lose his position because of asserting himself. What is the point of having your child go to a private school if you’re still not going to teach him basic principles of living? I have to ask the parents did he come to you complaining about bullies in school? And what did you tell him exactly?
Were you the lazy parent that did not teach him to fight back? Did you just brush him off and just ignore his complaints? What if you as an adult had someone in the workplace continue to push you around and harass you? How would you feel if your boss constantly pushed you and shoved you and cheated you on your pay, but every time you called authorities they told you bosses will be bosses and to just brush it off? How exactly would you handle that? Do you know how powerless it makes a person feel when you take away their rights? You’re teaching them that the only thing they need to care about in this world is academics, but that they have no right to defend themselves against bullies. What type of message and lesson is that?
Why does this continue to happen? As a parent it is your job it is your duty it is your responsibility to empower your children. You don’t teach your children to turn the other cheek, you teach your children to fight. You don’t allow your children to be easy targets. If your child is going to a school and they are being bullied and the administrators refused to do anything about it then you need to withdraw your child. You can’t be so caught up on the title of a school or the location of a school or how prestigious they say it is. What about your child? That is a child that you gave birth to, and if you yourself don’t abuse your child at home why would you allow your child to be abused in school? You are responsible for your child. You don’t leave anyone else in charge of your responsibilities. You gave birth to that child so it is your responsibility to keep that child safe. You’re supposed to do anything that you possibly can to ensure the safety of that kid.
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Children today are so afraid of being suspended or expelled if they fight back. What does that teach Society? What does it teach you when you are reprimanded for defending yourself? How do you maintain any dignity and self-respect in the world if you are silenced and not allowed to fight back?
This child will be bullied his entire life. Don’t you understand that he took the only route that he knew? Don’t you realize that this was his last resort and he died angry and heartbroken and disappointed and let down by those who claim to love him the most. The only way I can understand not feeling any guilt about this is If the child never came home and complained, but if he complained to you and you kept him in that school shame on you. We don’t keep our children in abusive environments.
We are supposed to be guard dogs over them, especially when they are minors. What did you expect would happen? That the bullies would all of a sudden just take a conscience and decide to stop attacking him? That does not happen. Bullies have to be stopped! And schools need to start taking this seriously. When we begin to sue these schools for negligence, then things will begin to change. When parents begin to withdraw their child from these prison houses that call themselves schools, then they will fix the problem. But you parents are so busy. You are missing the opportunity to be a hero in your child’s life.
Most adults are so timid and they allow victimization of their students because they are afraid of losing status in the community. You’re so afraid to offend. Well as a parent I would find it highly offensive that you knew my child was being bullied and you did ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to stop it.
Please stop this. If you are supposedly a private school what are your measures to protect these children? You build walls to keep Outsiders out, but what about when their main issue is within those walls? What will you do then? Is it that you don’t want to offend another paying customer? Well Daniels parents also paid for their child to attend this school. Daniel should have felt safe. He should have felt liberty. But it was all taken away because someone refused to do their job. I would like to know who is accountable for Daniel Fitzpatrick’s death.
The School named HOLY ANGELS CATHOLIC ACADEMY. Holy angels my ass! I don’t see anything angelic about this story at all!
A 13-year-old boy from Staten Island, New York, took his own life on Thursday after being bullied by classmates at school.
In teenager Daniel Fitzpatrick’s tragic suicide note, which was supplied by his parents to The New York Daily News, he claimed that his old friends at Holy Angels Catholic Academy had stopped talking to him and didn’t like him.
“I gave up,” Daniel, who was scheduled to start at Brooklyn’s Xaverian High School in the fall, wrote on lined paper.
“The teachers either they didn’t do ANYTHING!” he scrawled in the note.
Daniel’s cause of death was hanging and the manner was suicide, New York medical examiner spokesperson Julie Bolcer confirmed to PEOPLE.
Daniel’s father, also Daniel Fitzpatrick, posted a video to his Facebook page on Saturday to thank people for their support. In it, he condemns both the boys who allegedly “tormented” his son and the Catholic school that reportedly told him, “You’ll be fine… These things will pass” when the teen went to school officials for help.
Holy Angels Catholic Academy has not immediately respond to PEOPLE’s request for comment.
“Thank you to all the people out there for your support and condolences, your thoughts and your shares,” Daniel says in the Facebook video. “My son’s story is now out there for the world to see and for the world to know the pain that he went through. I miss my son very much.”
“No parent should have to bury their child. No child should have to go through what my son went through.”
“To the parents of the boys that tormented my son, all I have to say is I hope you never have to feel what my family is going through right now. You get to hold your children every night and day for the rest of your lives and their natural lives. I don’t get that anymore. Your little monsters took that from me and my wife,” he continued.
Daniel’s mother, Maureen Fitzpatrick told the Daily News she recalled her son saying he wanted the bullies – who he names in his suicide note – to “know what they did to me and how I feel.”
Daniel and Maureen claim the “bullies” mentioned in his note embarrassed him at Holy Angels Catholic Academy – throwing balls at him in gym class and calling him names, according to the Daily News.
“Danny was always left out. He used to come up to me and ask me to get kids to play with him. The other kids would say they thought he was weird,” Maureen told the news outlet.
And the parents allege that the school did nothing to prevent or to help the situation.
“He felt like the whole school knew what was going on and was laughing behind his back. They humiliated him,” said Maureen.
The Brooklyn/Queens Diocese spokesperson told the Daily News: “In light of this tragedy we are reexamining all bullying prevention policies and training. The principal, teachers, and staff of Holy Angels Catholic Academy are heartbroken over the loss of Danny Fitzpatrick. We take the issue of bullying very seriously and address every incident that is brought to our attention.”